Most people are familiar with the concept of what you resist persists.
A less familiar, yet very common cousin of this dynamic is what I call: The Dreaded What Ifs. It occurs when:
a) you fervently want or don’t want something and
b) you fervently set out to control the outcome.
For example, let’s say you long to meet and marry your soul mate. You’ve been doing everything in your power to achieve this dream. You’ve read books, gone on dating sites, shown up at target-rich environments, and dated more than your fair share of frogs. It simply has not happened and you are completely bound up inside wondering, “What do I have to do?”
Well, you might have to do the very thing you haven’t been willing to do. You may have to face the unface-able and consider,
“What if it doesn’t happen for me?”
Can you do that? Can you possibly imagine the reality you have been resisting for years? Can you consider the possibility that you won’t meet and marry your soul mate in this life time? The dreaded what ifs loom behind every strong attachment and haunting fear…
- What if I don’t get pregnant?
- What if I get cancer?
- What if I lose my job?
- What if he never stops drinking?
- What if I can’t save my marriage?
- What if I never lose this weight?
Our unwillingness to consider the what if that we deem as unacceptable often serves as the resistance that keeps us utterly stuck. Most of us are terrified to be willing to consider the unacceptable. We think it means we’ve given up. We think it means the unacceptable is inevitable. This is not the case.
Being willing to consider the unacceptable does not mean we are accepting an imagined inevitability.
When we become willing to consider the dreaded what if, we make peace with our vulnerability. We face our fears, allow our grief and let it be okay that we fantasize about an imagined loss. And when we finally let go in this way, the resistance falls away and relief and unexpected possibilities are revealed.
As a life coach I’ve seen this more times than I can count. Upon releasing resistance I’ve witnessed:
- women getting pregnant
- people finally releasing excess weight
- individuals falling in love
- job hunters finding employment after 5 years of drought
- and so much more…
Resistance is the only thing that keeps our highest potential at bay!
Are you ready to release YOUR resistance to see what abundance and well-being is waiting for you? Read on for more inspiration and resources to propel you in the right direction!
Choose YOUR Reality!™
Sonia Miller
“The Priestess of Possibility!”
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